What to Gift (and What to Avoid!) for Newly Engaged Couples
Elizabeth Moore
Looking to Celebrate a Loved One’s Engagement? You’ve come to the right place! Here are thoughtful gift ideas that the couple will love—and that won’t end up in the landfill.
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Let’s start with an important tip: Avoid gifting wedding décor.
As tempting as it may be, every couple refines their vision for their wedding day in the early planning stages—and sometimes even completely changes it! Gifting décor too soon can make them feel obligated to include something that doesn’t represent their style on a day that’s all about them. Save that thoughtful gesture for later, when they can request something specific that aligns with their vision.
While we’re on the topic of gifts to avoid, steer clear of generic home items.
While the couple may currently have a lovely home and style you’d love to contribute to, their future vision might differ. Instead, consider waiting for their wedding gift registry to ensure your gift aligns with their needs. Experience gifts and honeymoon funds remain popular choices for couples who feel their home is already complete, so be sure to honor their preferences when selecting a gift.
So, What Should You Gift a Newly Engaged Couple?
When in doubt, think monograms, self-care essentials, and items that will help the couple get ready before they say “I do.” Personally, I love any excuse to put together a thoughtful gift basket (or bag), filled with hand-picked items that I adore, believe the couple will enjoy, or that perfectly capture their personalities.
Want some inspiration? Keep reading to discover my favorite items to include in a gift basket, the standout pieces I’d splurge on as a singular gift, and meaningful experiences that make for unforgettable engagement gifts!
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The Bag
I am an L.L. Bean Boat and Tote girl all the way through, and I love how easy it is to add a monogram! I use mine all the time as a planner, mom, and someone who is generally on-the-go. Opt for a larger size, and keep it neutral so both partners can use it. Looking for something to hold more petite items? This option from Amazon is an easy add-to-bag at a lower price point. Fill either of these with a few goodies and you’ll be a superstar gifter.
Self Care + Relaxation
In my opinion, thoughtful additions like this trending overnight lip mask are perfect for an engagement gift basket. The couple will want to look and feel their best, and a little extra hydration is always a win for the skin.
Looking to make self-care the centerpiece of your gift? Consider a gift card to a local spa for a couples’ massage. Giving them the chance to relax and enjoy quality time together before the big day is truly special. If the couple is in New York, I highly recommend a spa day at Mirbeau Inn & Spa. With three locations (and a fourth on the way), it’s easier than ever to experience their signature magic. My personal favorite is the Skaneateles location—it’s simply unforgettable. Honestly, I might just have to turn my love for Mirbeau into a full blog post of its own!
Mark the Moment
Subtly celebrate their engagement with a casual outfit that carries a meaningful touch. I especially love this Roman Numeral Set—it’s perfect for any couple, offering a cozy-to-chic vibe while taking a cue from Zendaya’s understated engagement soft launch. It’s a stylish way to show excitement without being too loud or literal.
For a more classic approach, a white-on-white look is always a timeless choice. This sweater, in particular, is an effortless yes for me—simple, sleek, and versatile enough for any occasion.
A Must-Have for Every Engaged Bride
A newly engaged bride will quickly realize she needs more than one ring dish! From the nightstand to the kitchen counter, these little essentials are both practical and charming. They make a cute and thoughtful addition to any gift basket and come in a variety of styles and personalization options.
This particular option, currently under $8, is an easy, budget-friendly choice that’s sure to delight—truly a no-brainer!
Help Keep their Jewelry Clean
There’s nothing quite like seeing a ring light up like a disco when it’s clean and sparkling! Help the newly engaged couple keep their ring and other jewelry shining bright with an ultrasonic cleaner—a practical and thoughtful gift they’ll appreciate.
For someone who’s always on the go, a pen-sized jewelry cleaner is the perfect travel-friendly option. It’s compact, convenient, and ensures their sparkle stays flawless wherever life takes them!
Candlelit Wedding Planning
The couple will have plenty of post-work evenings dedicated to wedding planning, so why not make the process more enjoyable with a luxury candle? Include a thoughtful note encouraging them to light it during their planning sessions—it’s a simple way to make those emails and decisions feel a little more special.
When choosing a candle, opt for a reputable brand with a light, neutral scent that isn’t overpowering. This is one of my all-time favorites and offers the perfect balance. Avoid ones with labels like “smells like planning a wedding” – although cute, as those gifts often remain unlit.
For a unique touch, consider gifting a set of smaller candles so the couple can sample different fragrances. They might even find one to light on their wedding day! Olfactory senses are deeply tied to memory, which is why I adore the idea of couples selecting a special perfume, cologne, or candle for their big day—it’s a beautiful way to revisit those joyful moments throughout their marriage.
Celebrate the Journey Ahead
Help the couple get excited about what comes after their wedding—their honeymoon! A set of monogrammed travel accessories, like these elegant luggage tags, makes for a thoughtful and practical gift. It’s a sweet reminder of the adventures they’ll share and a stylish way to kick off their travels together.
Keepsake Storage
For those who are especially close to the couple and want to give something truly meaningful, consider a thoughtful gift for preserving their wedding memories. A keepsake storage set, like the one shown here, is a beautiful option. With customizable compartments and included labels, it keeps everything organized and ready for those trips down memory lane.
Looking for something more flexible? A set of elegant white keepsake trunks is a fantastic alternative. They offer plenty of space for everything from cards to dried flowers, ensuring no treasured memory gets left behind.
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The Engagement Gift you can’t go wrong with?
Looking for a gift that’s simple to give, easy to ship, and sure to be appreciated? A gift card to a local restaurant is a perfect choice for an engagement gift. It’s a wonderful reminder for the couple to carve out time for themselves, even amid all the planning and excitement.
If they’re in Central New York and you’re unfamiliar with the restaurant scene, here’s a short list (from a very long one) of my favorite romantic spots for a memorable date night. These places offer the perfect setting for the couple to unwind and enjoy a peaceful evening together.
CAZENOVIA
SKANEATELES
SYRACUSE
